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What Fills Your Pot?

Someone once told me that time is like a soup pot. We can leave it half empty or fill it close to the brim and put extra effort into making sure it doesn’t boil over. Everyone uses different ingredients to fill theirs so we all get something different in the end. But everyone’s goal is to use their pot to make something great.

Erin and I have been filling our pot pretty close to that brim lately and there has definitely been at least a little boiling over between the two of us. We are both trying to study to take the Profession Engineering exam that has finally been rescheduled. Our new house is under construction a hundred feet from our current one and Erin is more or less the general contractor. We have stopped the growth of the farm so that is taking less time now, but it still takes some. Between working and the three kids on top of that, we don’t often wonder what we should do with our days.

I am not saying this to complain, in fact for the most part I am very happy with this busy life that we have right now. Most people in my extended family are self-employed and ever since I can remember a common response at our family gathering has been, “It is better to be busy than to be bored.” However, if you are too busy, the proverbial pot boils over.


As human beings, we tend to prioritize the wrong things sometimes. When it comes time to cut something out of the schedule it is often family time that is lost. Playing with your kids won’t get you a promotion. Going to that soccer game on the weekend won’t get your house build. And extra bedtime stories don’t pay very well.


But longer hours won’t guarantee a promotion. Finishing a house just makes room for other projects. And all the money in the world won’t buy you another second of time lost with your children. It is hard to fight against those natures though and it is a battle worth fighting. I don’t want to grow old and realized I missed moments of my children’s lives that I could have easily made time for. So, we are going to work taking a little out of our pot. And while it is not a huge time commitment the first thing I am doing is changing reducing the amount of time I spend writing. I am going to switch to making one post per week on this website. I want to make sure I am spending my time with my family and on this hobby wisely so that I can give my all to both without regretting either. If things ever calm down, I may switch back to posting twice a week but who knows when that will be so I will just play it by ear.


Time is the most limited resource available. How we spend it is what dictates the quality of our lives and how happy we are in them. A second might not seem like a significant amount of time but you don’t have to let too many slip by to make a minute. What is important for you to invest your time in? What are you spending it on that you could really do without? As a father the most important thing I can invest my time in is my family. And it is the investment with the greatest return.


I hope this message finds you in good health and of a sound mind. Thank you for giving me a little of your time today. I will talk to you next week. In the meantime, I am just another confused father from Kansas wondering…

Where does all the time go?

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