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What You Should Learn From Your Girlfriend

Nine weeks after Erin and I started dating, I was driving her to the emergency room in Kansas City during what would be the first of many of the MS flare-ups we would experience during our relationship. After 3 days in the hospital, Erin was released and we spent the next 5 days hunkered down at my parent's house while she recovered from the heavy steroids that had brought her flare-up under control. During recovery, she had a PICC line in her arm to help administer a tapered dose of the steroid to prevent a relapse. I learned a lot that week. Like how to administer a dose of steroids through a PICC line, how to clean the line afterward, and, most importantly, how to tie back Erin's hair.


Erin's PICC line prevented her from lifting her arm above shoulder height which made it almost impossible for her to tie her hair up. I say almost impossible because I am sure that if a person was left in a situation where they had a permanent loss of the function of one arm they would learn to overcome. But for a person with such a short-term disability, it made way more sense for me to learn to do it.


I had lived my entire life up to that point under that same roof as three other women (two sisters and my mother) but I honestly had never even thought about the methodology behind a ponytail. I can tell you it is not as easy as all the girls out there make it look. With a little practice, I got the hang of it though and by the end of the week I could handle a ponytail, braid, or simple bun. After Erin recovered the use of her arm she went back to doing her hair but every once in and while I will still give it a try just to see if I remember what I learned that week.


If you are wondering why I think "hairdressing" is more important than learning those basic medical skills, let me elaborate. I have no interest in entering the medical field where those would be useful skills. I also pray on a daily basis that Erin never gets bad enough again that I am in a position that I have to do either of those things again. On the other hand, I have had many opportunities to style Erin's hair since that long week back in 2012. Even more important than that though, is the fact that I have a daughter of my own now and she needs help putting up her hair every day.


Now I will admit with my wife being the stay-at-home parent more often than not Gabs is still rocking a mop-top hairdo when I head out the door on weekday mornings. But having my little girl climb up in my lap on Saturday morning and ask me to help with her hair is something I will never get tired of. If you have any plans of becoming a father you owe it to your daughters (and your wife) to learn how to put up a ponytail. And I can tell you for sure that it is a lot easier to learn from your girlfriend (or wife) than it will be to learn from your daughter.

If you are one of those guys that only want sons, I hate to break it to you, you can't control that. (Unless you adopt) Also, every father needs a daughter.But that is a topic for another day, in the meantime, I hope this post has found you in good health and of a sound mind. I am just another confused father wondering ...


How do you french braid hair?


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